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  • Who Knows

    Who Knows

    A week has passed and I am still here. A week in a new job and I am glad its over because I found it a lot.

    I am not the best person for change but when I think about the long run and where where I want to end up the new job is a very positive change. Where I want to end up I need to make the career change.

    Where I want to be I need to work hard. My new Employers do not know I have Asperger’s Syndrome. My auntie who was manager of HR department for a large international company said I should tell tthem ASAP but what I have not said out loud to anyone is, if I do, what if they treat me differently or they decide to terminate my contract because the accommodations they will have to take in place.

    I am good at what I do. The problem I have is the social cues. If they ask me to do something like help my colleagues and stick with that or whether they are joking etc.

    The benefit from the new job is I can advance to the further education I want. This means what I see myself doing in the future I need to commit to the new job I have been in the last week and fully commit myself to the terms they have laid out. In many ways I do not mind as I can gain confidence with the new training and knowledge after fingers crossed qualifying.

    My dream is a good few years away but, I need to tackle this hurdle first then, as far as I am concerned, the world is my oyster and the excitement brewing in me with the thought is wanting to explode and I do not know how I am containing it. I cannot tell whether the excitement is also partly to do with because it all happening around Christmas or whether it is just because I know and hoping for the outcome at the end.

    Stay tuned I plan to give weekly updates, worst case 2 weeks.

    arrivederci Signore e Signora

  • Go to Comfort Part 3

    Go to Comfort Part 3

    On my previous posts I said I had 2 comforts. Having thought about it and having realised how much comfort I get from it. My home is my comfort. Waking up this morning, making a coffee and going back to bed with it and enjoying the peace and quiet in the comfort of my bed. I had such a slow morning (which I do one morning a week at least) and I feel calmer, relaxed and comforted as I have had a long period of time in the comfort of my home just mooching around.

    I sat in bed in the quiet with my coffee and browsed my travel brochure to get inspiration for my next holiday.

    The quiet and being able to hear myself think in the comfort of my bed and with the smell of coffee is a triple bonus and major plus for me. All week I really look forward to the slow morning and the quiet time with the coffee and my own home.

    For people who do not get comfort from their home, what is happening or happened at home for them to rather be elsewhere.

    All over the world there are people who have never had to experience such a feeling or time in their life where they have never wanted to go home for one reason or another need to constantly remind themselves how lucky they are to have never had to experience it. Most of those people come from a background or/and living in a council flat where their bedroom is the sofa and the living room while their parents have the bedroom on a council estate. A country where it is war torn so their home or place of comfort has been destroyed.

    The days where you think ‘no I want to take it easy today’, so you take longer to wake up, when you do eventually wake up enough, you make yourself a hot drink and have the pleasurable knowledge of being to drink it slowly so you can savour every mouthful. Maybe at some point make breakfast eat that wherever you want in the house.

    Let me know in the comments section what your go to comforts are.

  • Go to Comfort part 2

    Go to Comfort part 2

    In my previous post I mentioned I had two comforts one being books the other is being outside in the open.

    Being outside makes me feel very calm indeed. When I have been inside all day for work I get the feeling of being trapped so, getting to be outside as much possible is a great stress relief. I am very grateful I have a balcony off my flat. Even just by sitting on the balcony helps a great deal of releasing any feeling of being trapped

    The feeling of being outside helps me feel less trapped and closed in. Being outside in the open especially amongst trees soothes me and invigorates my imagination. Being amongst nature and outside allows me to appreciate the world more and feel more like I am whole person and forget that I have Asperger’s Syndrome and how in situations I get so overwhelmed I over react or don’t react.

    Trees, gardens, meadows, woods, forests you name it have this power over me that I never tire of. It’s always quiet and little to no people at all around. I can hear my thoughts. the soft sound of the trees and the way the light filters through when the sun comes out or when it rains and the trees protect you completely or allow small rain drops through and it hits you on the head or face, if you are like me and looking up at the trees to enjoy the view form below.

    Trees do not ask questions but, they somehow seem to prize the bad energy out of me and allow me to reinstate myself to a emotional and mental well being where I feel like I am in control of myself again, which then allows me to process the day in a much easier way than before. Being outside also allows me to feel more in control as I have mentioned before but trees, not only powerful to help the planet as we know it but they are powerful in so many other ways and they so understated by much of the human population.

    Ever since I was a child I have always been an outdoorsy and bookworm. My favourite is sitting under a tree or where there trees to allow me the option if I want to sit underneath one with my book and a blanket and pass away the time. For me this is my ultimate go to move and rejuvenate myself. I as an Aspie am at my most happiest when I am doing this. of course when it has been raining hard it is not possible but then I enjoy a walk and get home and get mega comfy on my sofa wit my book.

    As an adult I have been able to communicate with my family in particular what my trigger points are and what helps me. My family try as much as they can but even they get to a point where they struggle to help which is where an an individual finding my ways to help and making myself do them is so important. The wider circle of people need to be a lot less judgmental and encourage the individual on the spectrum to their calm state in whatever way they can.