Asperger’s Syndrome Part 2

People who are Aspie’s all have the same thing in common. The part of the spectrum they struggle with is the social aspect. I explained in my previous post how much I struggle with it.

It’s how to start a conversation, or if this has been mastered it’s a topic of small talk that is absolutely tedious. Small talk is not where I shine and I hate it. I would rather jump straight into a conversation of intelligence that sparks me and the participants into a deeper thinking. Personally it’s about having a great and interesting conversation or no conversation at all.

Having come across other people on the spectrum I know finding the words and putting them into a sentence can be a real and major struggle. It could be mid conversation, sentence or simply at the start of both. Other times a sentence is formed but makes no sense to a neurotypical but absolute perfect sense to a neurodivergent. I find for myself, only occasionally, if I am really struggling to find the right word or the words to string together if it does not make sense to me it will make sense to a neurotypical.

One of my all time favourite pass times is sitting on my balcony or if I am out in a café is people watching. I find it so much more enjoyable than attempting or trying to engage or keep a conversation going.

When I do watch other people I do get the feeling of loneliness and envy of how they find it so easy to socialise so effortlessly. As much as I enjoy not engaging with other people I do also enjoy it just on the scale that other people might. All it takes is a few hours and of my weekend and I am happy to then get on with the other stuff I have to do.

I have so many conversations in my head that happen. Most are to myself, about anything and everything, Big or small topics. Some are with family members about the same sort of thing. I am not good at reading social cues so I could end up either talking too much because I don’t know when to stop talking or I don’t respond because I don’t know if it’s my cue to talk.

I am socially anxious person and always have been and that is because of my Asperger’s I often feel left out despite my efforts to fit in. This then leads to my mental health which is impacted daily.